March 5, 2014

The Dx

Today has been a crappy day.

Family meeting with the social worker that was awful. Therapy with the Absurdly Gorgeous Therapist (AGT), who I’ve now decided is only Really Handsome—this is a disappointing, step down. I am currently withstanding the Ice Maiden silent treatment from Hope after all this chatter about treatment and feelings today. Like Hope, I’m raw from all this feelings talk too.

Since it’s been a schnitty day, and I’m anticipating World War 14 when dinner is served, I’ve taken a different tact for this post.

The Dx

There once was a girl named Hope

Who recently claimed “end of rope.”

Then the care team said, “RAD,”

And ABM was so sad.

Now they both need help learning to cope.

Sigh….

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9 responses to “The Dx”

AdoptiveNYMomma
March 5th, 2014 at 7:01 pm

My oldest is RAD too. Please talk to me if you have questions!!!

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- AdoptiveBlackMom
  March 5th, 2014 at 9:04 pm
  
  Thanks, will definitely have to check in. In some ways not surprised and glad to name it, and in other ways just wishing it wasn’t.
  
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Anon
March 5th, 2014 at 9:46 pm

Okay. Wait. Am I allowed to like this poem? 🙂 No, but seriously this post offers lots of insight — except about the downgrade on the gorgeous meter. All jokes aside, keep fighting the good fight ABM. Your hands are mega full but clearly you’ve (He’s) got this.

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- AdoptiveBlackMom
  March 6th, 2014 at 10:19 am
  
  Hey the downgrade comment is oddly significant–I think it was a coping strategy I was employing when I was trying to survive our session. He’s very attractive but in the moment, I thought, yeah, he’s not absurdly attractive anymore…Perhaps when things are on an upswing he will get an upgrade. Thanks for the support.
  
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SerialAdopter
March 6th, 2014 at 9:56 am

Hey – I don’t know if you’ve ever checked out this resource, but it’s been very helpful to me with a couple of my children. It’s a tough haul and hopefully, helpful to know you’re not alone.
http://empoweredtoconnect.org/?contributors=dr-karyn-purvis

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- AdoptiveBlackMom
  March 6th, 2014 at 10:17 am
  
  Thanks so much. I do visit the site and have the book too, good to know that it’s been such a helpful resource to someone else. It was certainly enlightening in trying to prepare, but as you know, there’s only so much preparing. Thanks.
  
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Mimi
March 6th, 2014 at 3:29 pm

Not much to say except that diagnosis sucks. Royally. But now, as Iyanla Vanzant says, you can call a thing a thing. Knowing means you can address it. There is forward movement in that.

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Kathy
June 30th, 2014 at 12:00 am

Feeling your pain with the “ice maiden” thing. Hang in there!

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- AdoptiveBlackMom
  June 30th, 2014 at 7:50 am
  
  Thanks Kathy. Things have greatly improved since I wrote this Dx post, but yeah, the ice maiden occasional still makes an appearance.
  
  Thanks for the read!
  
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