I’m traveling this week and trying to keep up with the horrors of the day in bits and pieces. I’m struggling emotionally with all I’m seeing, so bear with me in this post.
I’m heartbroken and I’m angry. And I’m really having a hard time with the frequent defenses I’m seeing that “these are criminals, and we remove kids from criminals in the US” narrative.
Ok, there are legitimate reasons why children may, and sometimes should be, at least temporarily, removed from parents care. Without question, there are criminal acts for which removal of a child is expected and assumed. This is done for the *child’s* safety and interests, not as a punitive action against the parent. Why? Because we recognize that the biological family bond is important. This is why foster care and adoption is *supposed* to be child-focused, child-centered.
Personally, I’m having a hard time believing that parents who are bringing their children when seeking asylum or simply risking illegal border crossing and residency for a better life are the types of ‘criminals’ we think of when considering immediate child removal. This is not child-focused or child-centered. This is punitive for everyone involved, and this does not center the health, care or well-being of children. Yes, I recognize that there is an adult that needs to be processed/dealt with (preferably in a humane and respectful way), but the children…how families are handled should prioritize the needs of the children. Children should be with their families of origin, whenever, possible: full stop.
When layering on other demographic features like color and poverty, it becomes easier for Americans’ latent, but often overt, racist tendencies to embrace child removal, since the US has always been quick to consider punitive measures when those race and poverty come into play. Don’t even get me listing all the ways this country…my country that I still love…has purposefully broken up families of color. White supremacy is a helluva drug.
I am not in favor of open borders; yes, I do think that we can and should do something humane about immigration—some of that has to do with our global work and positioning in the global economy and less to do with the building of a wall. But we are failing kids. We have become incredibly good, sickeningly so, at failing Black and brown kids in this country; we now seem to be willing to spread that failure, triggering more trauma, more mental health issues, more problems.
Prioritize the needs of kids. They should always be at the center of the discussion and the decision-making. When we do that we will make better decisions.
Can we do that? Will we do that?
AdoptiveBlackMom 
June 22nd, 2018 at 12:43 pm
This is a well known method used for an “easy” way to achieve the luxuries of America. It’s a ploy to skip the line. It’s a way to not have to fill out proper paperwork and come here legally.
And it’s wrong.
Using your child is wrong.
I have personally ripped babies out of arms of mothers and if you give them a a little while, they are just fine. Don’t let the media upset you or make you think that some of these children are HAPPILY placed in American custody while their parents are temporarily held accountable for their actions.
June 22nd, 2018 at 12:51 pm
To believe your perspective, you have to frame the entire situation in parents having mal-intent and that their situations are not terrifyingly dangerous or that they don’t put their children’s needs above all else. I can’t do that because I know what I would do to give Hope a chance at safety.
I shudder at your pride in separating families and at your belief that the kids are fine “after a while.”
I find little compelling in your comment other than your ignorance about child trauma. Bless you, and may you gain some understanding in that area.