I am a huge extrovert and I like holidays. I love them. I want to enjoy them; I do not like sulking on holidays. I want good food, some bevies, a card game, confabs with friends and families and a good ole time.
Holidays trigger Hope. She usually seems to look forward to them, but when they arrive, she is sullen, withdrawn, grouchy, tense, anxious and difficult to be around, especially since I am hype.
I get it. I do, but on a selfish note, gosh, I just want one holiday that isn’t icky, that isn’t an emotional minefield. It’s July 4th, and it’s been miserable around these parts all dang day. Tomorrow I take Hope to band camp, her first time away from me for almost a week that will not be with family. I totally and completely get that this is anxiety provoking and that she is unable to pull herself together. There has been so much anxiety today that is has been paralyzing.
I thought we might hit up a BBQ place for a late lunch, maybe take in a movie to get her mind off of things, but I couldn’t even get her dressed before 2pm and she still needed to wash hair and start packing.
It’s not right and it’s not fair, especially since I’m the adult here, but I am excited for her and it’s a holiday! I am starved for interaction and engagement, and while I shouldn’t expect her to fill that need, we’re the only ones in this house and Yappy has done all he can do for me. And as much as she is not engaging, I know that the last thing she really wants me to do is go out without her.
So, then I get all icky and attitudinal, which just makes everything worse. It has been an ittshay day.
I’m human and sometimes immature and not the greatest at this mom thing on rough days, so….yeah. I own my petty.
So, I’ve gone out for a bit, bought myself a new lippy, some new nail polish and a slurpee and picked up Peanuts from the Redbox.
In the car on the way home, I pulled on my emotional big girl undies and resolved to have a good evening with Hope…if it killed me.
Sigh…here we go.
July 4th, 2016 at 7:41 pm
So much love to you. I get all of this.
July 4th, 2016 at 10:17 pm
:::hugs:::: I so hope you and Hope got your good night. I get it too.
July 4th, 2016 at 10:31 pm
Thanks. We didn’t, but I tried.