I Marvel – Part 4

I marvel:

  • That Hope talks all through the movies, asking me questions as though I know what is going to happen next.
  • At how many movies have adoption sub-themes.
  • At how easily she will talk about all that she’s lost.
  • At how hard it is for Hope to have a positive view of the world.
  • At how she has segregated people by race and behavior in ways that upset me.
  • At how she has parlayed what she’s seen in terms of relationships into some really effed up views on gender roles and behaviors.
  • At how deep grief goes.
  • That she eventually comes clean with all her shenanigans.
  • That we have deep moments where we really talk.
  • That I can tell when she’s got a new crush (so friggin obvious).
  • That we have the most amazing and hilarious girl talk moments.
  • That I’m getting better at problem solving.
  • That I finally did volume production of frozen crockpot meals (this development was overdue).
  • That now that a spate of anger has passed the more affordable eye glass frames at Costco look appealing to her.
  • That we’re *still* talking about the teen foolishness that went down last month (it’s really a crucible for us).
  • That she’s into a groove with the nannies.
  • At how joy and pain can still reside so closely.
  • At how much I miss The Furry One.
  • At how I’ve kept the new hermit crabs- Beyonce and Jay-Z Crabbers alive for almost 3 weeks.
  • At how I dropped a couple of pounds this week.
  • At how this squat challenge I’m doing isn’t so bad now that I’m halfway through it.
  • At the stuff I still need to get Hope to prep for the winter weather.
  • At how excited I am to prep for fall break and spring break next year.
  • At how excited I am to start planning our trip to Bougieville (Martha’s Vineyard) next summer.
  • At how a tiny bit of weekend rest can cure some of what ails you.



About AdoptiveBlackMom

I'm a single Black professional woman living in the DC area. I adopted my now adult daughter in 2014, and this blog chronicles my journey. Feel free to contact me at adoptiveblackmom@gmail.com, on Facebook at Adoptive Black Mom, and on Twitter @adoptiveblkmom. ©www.AdoptiveBlackMom.com, 2013-2022. All rights reserved. (Don't copy my ish without credit!) View all posts by AdoptiveBlackMom

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